3 Ways Often Overlooked in Keeping Your Marriage Healthy!

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Mark and Sharita have been married for 5 years.  They both love each other dearly, but their marriage is unhealthy.  It has been unfruitful for the past 2 years.  They feel like they are just functioning in a very dysfunctional relationship.  

It’s at the point where Sharita just wants to give up and quit.  She is tired!  She is frustrated!  She just feels there is more to marriage than what she has been experiencing.  Sharita now looks forward to going to work, more than she does coming home.  They have 2 kids and she loves them very much.  However, she is starting to think that "I can do this by myself".  

Can you relate?

Sharita is in a hopeless place.  She notices that her friends are doing well in their marriages and she just can’t figure out what is going wrong with hers.  At times, she blames herself for the distance and loneliness she feels in the marriage.  On the contrary, deep down she thinks it’s Mark’s fault because he doesn’t know how to love her unconditionally.  He acts like they are happy in front of his parents and his friends, but privately there is no joy.  This makes Sharita even more annoyed and confused.

Based on this scenario, this is what we call a “Bleeding Marriage”.  

The more a marriage bleeds the weaker it becomes.   

• Are you in the shoes of Mark and Sharita?  
• Do you believe that if something doesn’t change, this marriage could die?  
• Are you seeking an answer?  
• Do you feel like you have tried everything you know to fix it or make it better?  
• Do you just wonder if your husband sees the severity of the issue?

If you answer “YES” to these questions then keep reading.  There is hope for you!

Just like this story of Mark and Sharita, we also have experienced a bleeding marriage.  We would like to share a few ways we discovered that healed our marriage.  

Read on to receive them?

Ok, so grab your bible and turn with us to Mark 5:25-34.  

Stop here and read this passage.

We see here that there is a woman who is dealing with an issue of blood that she has been battling for 12 long years.  She has spent all of her money on doctors that could not heal her.  However, one day she heard that Jesus was in her town.  She was aware of His healing power.  The woman believed in her heart that “If I can just touch His robe, I’ll be made well!”    

Her mind was made up, so she pressed through the crowd to get to Jesus.  By one simple touch immediately healed this woman.  You want to know why?  Simply because she BELIEVED.  

Well, think for a moment.  When you have a severe cut and it is bleeding non-stop, there are a few things you need to do.  Right?

1) Apply Pressure
2) Get Help….It’s Bigger than You
3) Believe the Healing Comes After the Pressure

Allow us to break this down as it relates to your marriage.

Step 1: Apply Pressure:
When you have a cut and it is bleeding you immediately apply pressure.  Correct?

In a marriage that is bleeding, you start to experience more and more pressures of life.  It’s in the midst of pressure where you begin to feel failure, fault others and want to give up the faith.  Listen to us, this is a critical time in your marriage and it's just a part of the the process toward your healing.  The pressure has a purpose and it will position and prep you for the breakthrough.

Step 2: Get Help….It’s Bigger than You!  
Yep, you heard us right.  You can’t stop this kind of bleeding on your own.  

Take the time to strengthen your relationship with Jesus and ask Him to send you others to support your marriage.  God gets His work done on earth through His people.  Seek out your Pastor, Christian Counselor/Coach, go on a Marriage Retreat or take a Seminar to receive the teachings and tools about God’s deliverance and healing power?  It works!

Step 3: Believe the Healing Comes After the Pressure.  
After pressure is applied and you receive the help of others; healing will begin to take place.  

You will start to believe in your spirit that the bleeding is slowing down and will eventually stop.  During the time of pressure, that's when you need to start believing that everything is going to be alright.  This is part of the process and the end result is a healed and healthy marriage.

We believe that there are many marriages that are bleeding right now and we are praying for your healing.  

We know you want it to work.  You need it to work.  You believe that it could work.  You just want this one area to be resolved once and for all.

Beloved, know that your healing is here.  If you are in this place and reading this post, then God is showing you the power of His healing.  You just need to believe that it is pointed in your direction and coming upon you now.  Believe it in your heart and walk out these three steps and watch  God work.  

Praise the Lord!  Now finish what you started and don’t give up!  Hold onto the hope of the Lord and remember the blessings He has already done for you and your spouse.

Until next time…..

Live in Peace,
Billy and Yolanda

P.S.- We pray that this post has encouraged you and blessed your spirit.  We accept prayer request, so please don’t hesitate to reach out to us.  We would be delighted to pray with you and for you.  Your deliverance is coming!!

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